Last weekend my mood was terribly off because of the situation created by
my family regarding my marriage. From the past few months I was avoiding such
discussions but now it’s no way. so I registered my profile in the matrimony.
It was having all my good points like academic record, job, salary etc. were
highlighted. It reminded me of a marketing collateral which I was preparing
last week for our new project, so that end users can accept all the reasons!!!
ONLINE UPLOAD - Oops
sorry….
It is more or less similar
to your resume which you upload on different job portals and on the basis of
which recruiters evaluates you whether you are suitable for the applied job or
not!!!
Let’s come back to our
marriage search as we are not searching a job. We are searching a person here.
Based on this data, (comparing the horoscope of both boy and girl) astrologer
will tell how compatible the boy and girl will be with each other. Strange
that people trust this sheet more than themselves!!!
Once the astrologer tells
you that horoscope are matching, then you go ahead towards the next step which
is say cheese or scrutiny of all your previous photographs.
SAY CHEESE – Since
your horoscope is matching oops sorry perfectly matching and you both are made
for each other types couple so the next step is exchange of photographs. Of
course one should know whether his/her partner is smart/ beautiful or not
before they say a “yes” or “no”. Trust me it is more or less a kind of Sales
activity. In my team I am fully involved in developing sales strategy for new
solutions. So from my experience I am saying that…
The best you look in the
photograph the more you are in demand!! May it be photo
editing or May it is natural. Your photo may be a pass to him/her or fail. If
it is passed, then there you go further…..
BACKGROUND VERIFICATION - Before
meeting, you may talk with your prospective partner over the phone and want to
make sure that you are getting into the right family. Your parents may conduct
a family background check. It is similar to the background verification check
which your new company performs when you are about to join it. In fact in my
current organization, BG verification is very tough When I was in Delhi,
one of my colleagues got fired because of fake experience letter.
But if you belong to a big
family with rich dad and big status or at a very good professional position
then don’t bother about this small step. You already are in very HIGH
DEMAND!!!
LIVE MEETING: After
clearing all the above steps if you are still interested in him/her then here
you go to the live meeting. In this step, you will meet with the person of your
choice.(Sorry! I use the word YOUR choice. Please ignore it. Read it as the
WORLD’S CHOICE for you!!!). The guy and gal get the chance to look at and
talk to each other. Early days location would have been a temple, own house
etc. But now we have improved to meet at CCD, malls, food courts
There’s lots of discussion
regarding your personal and professional likes and dislikes will happen. Don’t
get irritated or shocked if your prospective bride or groom discuss silly
questions like bring red roses for you or if your prospective bride asks for a
separate house after marriage as she cannot adjust with your family members. So
be mentally prepared. After all it is an arranged marriage!!!
Sometimes in this step you
have to pretend in front of your partner that you are enjoying his/her company
but in reality you are totally irritated by his/her pretensions, fake English
ascent, etc. etc…
FINAL DEAL –After
one or two-three meetings (if you are lucky), the final decision of being REJECTED (Sometimes the
reason can be silly too like your height, weight, job, education, age, etc.) or
of being SELECTED is declared to other family and date of the
wedding is fixed.
Wait a minute final deal
also includes the dowry matters too. What is your expectation to get yourself
selected? Uhhhh……..
In short, you are hired!
May be in between many a times you have decided that you don’t want to get
married or why you have opted for an arrange marriage. Basically you are now
here to start a new life filled with responsibilities and risks with an
“unknown person”.
I hope you have chosen the
right person. But don’t worry as in our society we believe that Marriages are made in heaven so
whether it’s right or wrong, it’s GOD’s CHOICE only
Now I am thinking, why I started myself to get into this
process.anyways…..
Let’s see what will
happen….. :) :) :)
